tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-44083768583443237112024-03-13T16:24:01.291-05:00Clayton Michael Henning's life & love The story of a little boy born with Myotubular Myopathy and the beautiful short life he livedEMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.comBlogger62125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-16288902265562120592013-05-16T12:24:00.001-05:002013-05-16T12:24:34.638-05:00Celebrating our Rainbow baby Kendall with her big brother by our sidesSorry I have neglected to blog lately. Life has slowly gotten in the way again. I find myself thinking about blogging in the morning while driving to work & in the evening when im struggling to keep my eyes open after Kendall is in bed. So for the last few weeks I've been really meaning to.<br />
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I've had a lot of emotions surfacing the last few months. The spring always brings back so much for me. The smell and the feeling triggers my memories from 2 years ago, like it was yesterday. The feeling in the air, the smell of our cold basement, the excitement with the weather turning nice. This year is so much different than the last 2 previous years. For the first time, I'm not pregnant. I miss that part, but I don't miss the the anxiety I had this time last year.<br />
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It's hard to think that 2 years has come and gone and I'm still standing. I mean I knew in my heart I'd survive, but I'm a little surprised that it's gone so quickly. Here we are about to celebrate Kendall's 1st birthday, and I'm still having flash backs of the NICU with Clayton. I think about the first time I saw him, about all the time we spent by his side at the University and the last time I held him and told him I loved him. I think about all this like it was just yesterday. I am so grateful I haven't forgotten a moment or a feeling, but I still wish things could have been different. I miss him so much. With this time of year, I'm just reminded of what our life has been and is. We will for always be parents to 2 children, one who is living his life in heaven and one who is here with us, about ready to turn one! I am so proud that I can say that, but sad at the same time.<br />
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A lot of people say when loosing a child, time will help heal the pain. I was a believer in this, however this , Clayton's 2nd birthday is harder. I have Kendall here to remind me what Clayton didn't get to do. I'm so grateful & blessed to have her as my daughter. Looking forward to watching her grow & learn everyday. But that really doesn't stop me from missing my son. I wish he could have been here to celebrate with us, but I know he'll be here in spirit.<br />
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Saturday Kendall turns 1. Really can't belive that either. Im sad that she's no longer a itty bitty baby, but excited to watch the little person she is becoming. There is not a moment that goes by that I'm not grateful for what I've been given. I know how blessed I am. I am lucky enough to have 2 beautiful children, one just happens to be in heaven.<br />
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So as we celebrate Kendall's 1st birthday, I know Clayton will be here right beside us celebrating the RAINBOW we've been blessed with.<br />
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Happy 1st Birthday Kendall Marie- We love you so very much.<br />
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<br />EMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-85240313826073116052013-02-10T20:48:00.001-06:002013-02-10T20:48:40.218-06:00Kendall's 1st MDA walk in loving memory of Clayton<span style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;">what a long, long time it has been. Oh how i've missed blogging and getting things off my chest.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;">This weekend was such an emotional remembrance of Clayton. It was our 2nd annual MDA muscle walk as Team Clayton. There was a lot of differences this year. I think this year I allowed myself to feel. Feel everything i have been thinking about lately. Feel the pain, the devastation, the panic, the loneliness, the anger, the heartbreak, just to feel him. I felt him more than i have in a long time. That was something i really needed. I always know that he is with me, but this day was different. I felt him there, participating. It became more real for me when the walk was over and awards were being announced. When the award for "best team member" came up, and the speaker began with saying, "we nominate our daughter Kendall" I lost it, tears began pouring down my face. Out of the hundreds of people there, Kendall was being recognized. I knew that was Clayton, what an honor, all because of the love we have for Clayton.</span><br />
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team Clayton. Kendall was born May 18th 2012, just short of what would
have been Clayton's 1st birthday. After a lot of testing and a very
stressful pregnancy. Kendall is 100% healthy. She does NOT carry the
Myotubular Myopathy genetic disorder that Clayton suffered & passed
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reason I am nominating her is because she has given us hope. After the
loss of Clayton, we needed hope. She has shown us to fight for love
& to have hope in hopeless situations. It is a blessing and pleasure
to have her walking with us this year in the MDA muscle walk in honor
of her brother.</span></span></i></span></div>
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So it's been a while. I think about blogging every night, but it's something i need time for. </div>
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Time to reflect and time to think about how to say things. As I'm living through this, I have to learn how to speak out my emotions. Sometimes it's easier said than done.</div>
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So things have been building lately. Lots of little things still really bother me and with the holiday's those little things build into big things.</div>
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My son is still gone and I have to learn to live on without him, and at the holidays, that's kinda hard to do. For the most part everyone carries on their Merry little way, worrying about shopping, decorating, holiday baking, driving to families homes, etc. but as a grieving mother, I am focused on other things. Just getting through it. Trying to get through the holiday's without Clayton or a breakdown. I know that I now have Kendall, and that is the most valuable blessing of all. However, there is still a piece that is gone, and I can't do a thing about it. This year's Christmas is somewhat different than last year, I have things to look forward to rather than wishing it all to hurry up and go away. I put up a tree this year(last year there was no Christmas in our house) & covered it with ornaments from Marcus & I's childhood along with Clayton's memorial ornaments, but most important I have Clayton's 1st & 2nd Christmas ornament along side Kendall's 1st! We are beginning a new tradition, building the tree with our children's ornaments.</div>
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I am doing a whole lot better this year than last christmas, but it still is not the same, nor will it ever be. </div>
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He was important.</div>
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Please please do not take that away from me. I have lost him, but I will never loose his memory.</div>
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Christmas soon will be over & I'll have made it through, yet another milestone. But one thing will never change, the love I have for my son & the pride i express when I talk about him.</div>
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Merry Christmas to you in heaven Clayton- I hope it's as beautiful for you as I dream.</div>
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XOXO- Mommy </div>
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<br />EMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-49167860607193222882012-10-23T21:32:00.002-05:002012-10-23T21:32:54.159-05:00my heart still quivers when i think about itI recently fell upon a blog from another mother who experienced a lot of what I did with the birth of Clayton, and that has had me thinking back to that day. When my life changed completely. When I lost the one thing I had wanted so badly, but never thought I wouldn't get. A healthy baby boy. I remember it like it was moments ago. What I wore to the hospital, the weather, the excitement, the pain, the labor, then...... the <b><i>silence</i></b>. The shear panic and devestation on the nurses and doctors faces. It was as if the whole world was caving down on Marcus & I. We never thought for a moment our son would not be healthy and here we were watching him be revived. Our lives, were forever changed that moment. It's something so hard to explain, how we went from thinking everything was fine, to praying he would make it through the night. My heart still quivers when I think about it. <br />
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Over the last year and a half, I go back and visit memories like that.I dont think the devastation of loosing Clayton will ever go away but I remember the feeling of at first, before Clatyon passed, the heavy feeling my heart had, the panic and the reality that we just lost our dream. We had lost the dream of a perfect healthy baby boy, the one we should have taken home in his carseat like planned. The son we had a beautiful room all put together for, the son we had clothes in his closet for. The son we had planned to watch play in the yard. Those dreams were gone. We were robbed of that, and that was what hurt the most.<br />
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Visiting these memories, I think It's good for me. It reminds me when I've had hard days- when Im doubting my ability to get through, what I've been through, and how I've grown and come through it OK. It still doesnt stop my heart from aching, but It helps. This life we have isn't easy, but it's the life I was chosen to have. As I said back in a later post, some will say why us, but we say- WHY NOT US? I am thankful for my life and the lessons I have learned, but mostly I am thankful God choose Marcus and I to be Clayton & Kendall's mommy & daddy.<br />
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Just like I find comfort and healing with my blogging, I know that someday I will be sharing the story with Kendall, and I hope I remember all the beautiful memories I do now. I hope that she knows the love her brother was and the love we have for her & how she was the little rainbow to heal our hearts. She is the light of our lives & everyday I thank God & Clayton for her. I can't say this is the life I had planned, but I wouldn't change a thing. This was the life that was planned for me and I will be grateful for those gifts.<br />
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<br />EMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-17085495990041631802012-10-09T11:05:00.001-05:002012-10-09T11:05:37.491-05:00October- infant loss monthNot saying there needs to be a special month that I think about the loss of Clayton, because really it's on my mind every moment of every day. But I think it's a wonderful chance to think of Clayton and all the other little ones that never got to grow up in their loving home.<br />
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Over the last, 17 months, I have come to meet many parents that, like us, unfortunately know the devastating feeling of loosing their babies. It's a group I can't say I wanted to belong to, but one I am so very thankful I do.It's this incredible feeling of belonging and acceptance and knowing that they "GET IT" without me having to say anything. It's very hard to explain why my heart will forever be broken. People look to me and think, she should be ok now, she has Kendall. Yes, I am doing much much better and am so very happy and blessed. but I still have a hole, that will NEVER go away. My Son is never coming back, and that's a hard pill to swallow. I try very hard not to be angry or jealous of others who just get the "golden ticket" in life, the ones that get everything perfect with no worries. But sometimes it's hard.....<br />
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So this month, I make it my hearts path, to think of everyone I have come to know after the loss of their children. & I also think about all the joy and blessings they have had in their lives after their children went to heaven, it's breathtaking really. I am thankful for them & for their heartache, for their suffering has helped me heal my broken heart.<br />
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I am grateful for my life, I hope that you are for yours.EMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-67825483101412037422012-09-04T14:21:00.001-05:002012-09-04T14:21:18.942-05:00opening my eyes to life<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-SbibWh0naI8/Tk1jdBtu8sI/AAAAAAAAAD8/fs7-Omj4Z0k/s1600/Henning4792.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-SbibWh0naI8/Tk1jdBtu8sI/AAAAAAAAAD8/fs7-Omj4Z0k/s640/Henning4792.jpg" width="426" /></a><span style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif; font-size: large;">As I think about how much time has passed since Clayton, it's hard to believe he would be 15 months old. I'd like to say he'd be running all over the house, getting into things, but he just wouldn't have. It's hard to think about really. My son wasn't like normal children. His disease would not have allowed him to run around making my house a mess. It also wouldnt have allowed him to crawl, drink from a bottle, breath on his own, say momma or dadda.....It's scary and sad to think about what our lives would have been like with Clayton as a 15 month old. Most people would have no idea, but as Mytublar Myopathy parents (MTM) I am quite aware of what we would have be up against. And thinking about that sure puts life back in perspective. I am sad for Clayton that he got the fate he did, but I know that life with MTM is hard. For the child and for the family. It would have been filled with lots of terrifying moments and hard days. I know there would have been some really great days, but there would have been many many hard days. I know in my heart we did the right thing with letting Clayton choose heaven, but some days it's tougher than others. We knew we had to let him choose his life path, but we desperately wished his life could have been given to him with health, but it hadn't. Heaven was the life God intended for him. But that doesn't stop me from wishing it hadn't been and thinking about what life would have been like. Life is unfair, it sucks that he had to die, but to dwell in that, would be unfair to Clayton, and to Kendall for that matter. Like Marcus always says, "Clayton didn't want this to defeat us" & with that saying, I look back at the last 15 months and am in aww of all the wonderful things that have happened and know that because we thought of our son with a smile on our face and courage in our hearts, we are where we are today. And to think of what the future can bring.</span><br />
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<br />EMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-87324331895845072132012-08-12T16:57:00.000-05:002012-08-12T16:57:06.072-05:00I have to be happy, but I dont have to stop missing my sonI have been avoiding blogging lately & I need to get back to it. I have always blogged when I needed some relief, relief from my grief without bothering others with my story. I have been doing pretty well so I have avoided the blog, however I knew days like this would come. Where I just can't seem to find peace with Clayton's death. Where my life & it's events just pile up and get overwhelming With life's daily pieces, I always go back to loosing Clayto. It's just the little piece I'm missing, but it's the little piece that puts me in check & reminds me to be grateful.<br />
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But it doesn't take away that I just MISS CLAYTON. I am angry this happen, I am sad Kendall doesn't have a big brother that is here on earth. I am upset I didn't get the fairy tale ending with him; the one so many people get but don't realize how blessed they are. It just hurts, and it sucks!! I still find myself being uncomfortable with pregnant ladies who get that worry free pregnancy, or hearing people talk about wanting a boy or girl, or when someone is yelling at their kids or bitching about them. I want to scream out, I LOST MY SON & HE'S NEVER COMING BACK. but I can't. I have to keep it together. I have to go on, I have to be happy. But I dont have to stop missing my son. I think I've learned how to cope quite well, however there are days when I want to go back, back to the hospital and just be with Clayton. Hold him again, and just be.<br />
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Marcus & I were talking the other night and I confessed I was lately having a hard time, we have slowly stopped talking about Clayton, and that was hurting me. We have been so absorbed in Kendall and the daily life of taking care of a newborn, that I feel like we've forgotten to remember Clayton. I think about him all the time and thank him everyday for his little sister. Along with Marcus & I not talking much about him, I feel like other's dont either. & that's hard.I dont want to forget him & the love he was about & that has me struggling.<br />
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We love & miss you Clayton. May you have a wonderful day in heaven with Jaxson & Ben and everyone else we know. We love you.EMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-60288103269127653102012-07-13T14:40:00.004-05:002012-07-13T14:40:53.684-05:00praying for peaceful days<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Y36si1CWp6c/UAB4zc9RFzI/AAAAAAAAAUg/squf9PdImI4/s1600/DSC_0085.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="640" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Y36si1CWp6c/UAB4zc9RFzI/AAAAAAAAAUg/squf9PdImI4/s640/DSC_0085.JPG" width="424" /></a>This week has been tough, I have been missing Clayton all the while I am struggling with daycare and the idea of sending miss Kendall away to someone. Someone who doesnt know how much I love her and the journey we've been on to get her. I don't want to bring attention to ourselves, but I am having a hard time. I know that every other parent loves their child just as much as we do, but for me it's just very tough to let her go. Especially after what we have been through. I realize that I will never find someone - who isn't me, to watch her, I just hope i can find someone who understands where we have been and will love her like we do. I am struggling with that idea that I had to let Clayton go, and this almost feels like that. I really didn't think i would feel this way about daycare, but it's snuck up on me this week. The reality that i have to go back to work and back to some sort of normal.<br />
I am still grieving the loss of Clayton and I think that's why this is so hard. I have a lot going on, and im just trying to find a balance. I know in my heart things will all work out for the best, but until then I will just pray for some peaceful days.<br />
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<br />EMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-91955249568198032902012-06-28T14:19:00.002-05:002012-06-28T14:19:16.611-05:00He is the reason for the beautiful lifeI have been living a lot in my memories of Clayton lately. I miss him more & more, the pain doesn't ever go away. Especially since miss Kendall has arrived. If anything it's worse, because I am aware of all that we have missed with Clayton. A lot of memories have come back as I look at his little sister Kendall, I am in awww over how much they look alike! I often wonder if he would have acted like her, the funny faces and expressions with the little bit of sassiness at times, or when she's super smiley and happy to see you come morning, As I look at Kendall, I am reminded of her big brother so much. When I'm up at night nursing her, I think about him and how I never got to experience so much with him. It something just really hard to take. I lost our future with him. I know that it was in God's plan, but WOW is it still hard to swallow. It's hard, hard to be so very happy that you have a healthy beautiful daughter, but on the other hand, you lost your infant son, just 1 short year ago. . There are a lot of mixed emotions and feelings. & trying to find a balance is what im trying to put a handle on. I love Kendall so much and couldn't imagine our lives without her, so I am thankful for that & I am thankful for Clayton who allowed us to be his parents, showing us the meaning of life & true love. For he is the reason for the beautiful life we have today. That is something that can never be taken away.Kendall is such a beautiful gift, but I know it will never replace
Clayton, or even come close. It will hopefully help mend my heart, but
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I miss you little buddy- XOXO <br />
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<br />EMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-76115991678629114202012-06-24T12:52:00.002-05:002012-06-24T12:52:22.465-05:001 year agoToday, 1 year ago, we said our "see you laters" to Clayton. I don't like to think of it as us saying our "goodbyes" because we told him, we'd be with him always and "see him later" in heaven. We had prepared to let him go onto heaven, where we knew his life would be beautiful. It was the hardest, yet easiest decision of our lives. Hard to let the love of your life go, but easy because it was the wonderful life Clayton deserved. As parents you dream of giving your child everything they need & providing a wonderful life for them, with Clayton we were giving that to him earlier, the gift of a wonderful life in heaven, free from pain and limitations.<br />
As this year has passed, I can't believe how far we have come, in our grieving, in our love & in the blessings we've been given. Today, I am forced right back to the day 1 year ago & I can't believe we have survived. I remember his sweet face & smell and how I kissed his cheeks, just like it was yesterday. I remember Marcus & I telling him, it was ok to go, to go onto heaven. That still shakes me to my core when i think about it, but I have a smile on my face today because I know we did the right thing for him.<br />
We love you Clayton Michael Henning, you wil forever be our little boy & we can't wait until we can see you again. Until then, may you have a wonderful life in heaven.<br />
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XOXOEMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-38315124090889204082012-06-14T22:15:00.000-05:002012-06-14T22:15:32.285-05:00Kendall is 1 month old!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-size: large;">I have been dreading the 1 month birthday of Kendall, for the reason of it's the first physical milestone she gets, that Clayton didn't. I thought about it on Wednesday when Kendall was 26 days old, the same Clayton was when we flew away to heaven. It's a hard thing to swallow. Here we are so happy and celebrating miss Kendall, all the while still grieving for Clayton and the milestones he DIDN'T get. It's hard. I think of him everyday. I miss him more and more. Especially when I look at miss Kendall and know the reason for her. She is here because of the loss of her brother. Thats something!!! . I find myself getting lost in my days, busy with being a mommy. But I haven't forgotten Clayton or to be thankful, thankful for the life I have been given and the blessings. I miss Clayton so terribly much and I know that I will continue to miss milestones of his, but I know he is right there with us, celebrating Kendall's along the way.</span></div>
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XOXOEMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-39386441040978341332012-06-11T15:14:00.001-05:002012-06-11T15:14:26.813-05:00May you forever rest in peace<span style="font-size: small;"> </span><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;">Today I have done a lot of "thinking" about the past year and the losses & gifts we were given. With almost a year since Clayton flew with the angels onto heaven, we have lost another member of our family. </span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: small;"><span style="font-family: Georgia,"Times New Roman",serif;">Some of you may not know, but Marcus' uncle Steve lost his courageous battle with esophageal cancer on June 7th 2012. Steve was 40 years old, married and the father to 5 children. Losing Steve, almost 1 year after Clayton, it's brought back a lot of emotions & memories. While I said that we would not be "celebrating" Clayton's anniversary of his passing, I do still have it on my mind. Steve's Funeral was the first for us after Clayton's. It was again, bittersweet. As I carried my sweet baby girl into the church among the family per-session, I was reminded how it felt to walk in empty armed at Clayton's. As the pastor read aloud Steve's obit, the last line was about the people whom passed on before Steve. Clayton Michael Henning, was the last of those read. I know that Clayton was waiting in heaven for Steve's arrival, but it just was hard to hear, out loud, what we went through just 1 year ago. As I watched Marcus, as a pallbearer, so proudly carry his uncle to his final resting place, I couldn't help but weep for him. He was so strong. His heart had to be hurting and thinking of Clayton too. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;">May you forever rest in peace Steve & may you enjoy all your days in heaven until we can meet again.</span></div>
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Boy oh Boy, where did the year go? Today is Clayton's 1st Birthday! We have survived an entire year. Today is one of those days I have been anticipating for a long time, how would i feel, how would it go, would miss henning be here or not. So many unknowns I couldn't control. Well - guess what, it's all worked out how it should. I had secretly thought it would, but had to protect my heart in case it didn't. With that said, it hasn't been an easy year. It's been tough, missing so much, yet gaining a lot at the very same moment. To sum it up, it's been a BITTERSWEET year. We missed out on the typical baby milestone and were left with just grieving milestones. Making it through each day was the milestones we experienced.</div>
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I have thought a lot about what we were going to do for his birthday. After much thought and the early arrival of his little sister. We decided to just have friends and family come to our house and have a get together/celebration. It was perfect, no big ordeal, just love for a special boy. It was such a heartwarming day, to see new life in his little sister and to know the love behind the beautiful boy that made it all possible. It's so very comforting and humbling to see the continued love and support.</div>
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I also have been thinking of all the things I have been wanting to say to Clayton and so I thought it would be fitting for his first birthday.</div>
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Dear Clayton,</div>
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Oh how we miss you & your sweet little face. I still see you sweet face in my hands as i kiss you, like it was yesterday. I am so very thankful for you & the life you lived. You were the strongest and most inspiring little man I have ever met or ever will. You taught me more about myself & who I was meant to be in those 26 days than I had in my 29 years. You have made me the mother I am today, because of the Love you brought to us. You brought so much love to everyone who met you or even heard about you. You were one LOVED boy! You showed me the meaning of unconditional love and trust. You showed me the way to letting go and letting faith in, because of you, I have a walked through life a little lighter, realizing the gifts.<br />
I hope you are having a wonderful birthday party in heaven, surrounded by all your little friends and everyone who's gone before you. Oh what a party it must be! Know that daddy, mommy & little sister are right there with you! We miss you & love you so very much and we can't wait to hold you again. Until then, enjoy every little moment in heaven.<br />
Happy 1st birthday Clayton!<br />
Love- MOMMY, DADDY & LITTLE SISTER </div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><b>MY FIRST BIRTHDAY IN HEAVEN</b></span></span></div>
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<i><span style="font-size: small;"><span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">It's my first birthday in heaven,</span></span><span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">what a joy to partake.</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">My presents are flowers and rainbows</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">and angel food cake.</span></span><br />
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<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">My crib is decorated with roses</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">and glitter.</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">And the stars that shine upon me</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">make everything shimmer.</span></span><br />
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<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">The other angels are dancing and</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">singing me songs.</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">Soon Jesus will be joining me,</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">It won't be long.</span></span><br />
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<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">We'll all gather and pray</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">for my loved ones on earth,</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">Who love me so much,</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">from the day of my birth.</span></span><br />
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<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">You see, Birthdays in Heaven</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">are full of happiness and cheer.</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">We celebrate with our loved ones,</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">who proceeded us here.</span></span><br />
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<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">Yes, Birthdays in Heaven</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">are wonderful and gay.</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">One day we will celebrate together,</span></span><br />
<span class="yiv927538360apple-style-span"><span style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% white;">for that moment, Mommy and Daddy, I pray.</span></span></span></span></i></div>
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Well just a few short hours after I posted last friday. Little Miss Henning entered the world!<br />
Friday, May 18th at 11:54 pm, Kendall Marie Henning was born. 6 Ibs 5 oz, 18" long. Safe & sound! And really QUICKLY!<br />
She is so perfect and beautiful! I can't even start to put into words how much I love her. I can't quit staring at her and thinking, wow, she's really here & she's ours!<br />
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Kendall's birth story- born at 38 weeks & 4 days.<br />
So after having a nice relaxing evening outside by the firepit with good friends, we cooked a late super and when i sat down to eat, I just felt weird. I had my first contraction at 10:00pm, realized it was a different feeling than my previous 2 weeks of contractions. Marcus jumped in the shower, I continued to feel not so great and realized this was it and we needed to head to Iowa City. We headed to the University of Iowa Hospitals and I paged Dr. Jen, contractions were 10 minutes apart, Marcus drove about 100 mph to get us there, I kept saying, were fine, dont worry, when we got off the interstate, i joked and said, there is NO way were having a baby today still! we arrived at the University of Iowa Hospital parking ramp, parking ticket said 11:02pm, I was still feeling ok, I walked up to labor & delivery, checked in at 11:07, my first nurse checked me at around 11:20- I was dilated to 7 & contractions were 3 minutes apart, Dr.Jen joined us around 11:30. Contractions were intense and I had asked for my epidural, being my platelets had been low at my last apt, they needed to test them again, waiting for the lab to come back, I was starting to realize I may not get an epidural again this time! At 11:47 I was again checked, 9 1/2" centimeters dilated, I was ready to push but waiting for the 1/2 centimeter. Dr. Jen informed me, no time for epidural. I thought to myself, great! not what i wanted, but I've done this before with no drugs, I can do it again, plus I knew I had Clayton by my side, helping me along. In all the pain and chaos with the FAST labor, I continued to talk to Clayton and ask him to protect us. After 4 minutes of pushing, Kendall Marie Henning entered the world at 11:54! safe, sound & perfect. I can't tell you how blessed I felt at that moment. A calm just came over the entire room. We were blessed!<br />
So from start of contractions to delivery, 1 hour 54 minutes. From walking into the hospital to delivery- 47 minutes!<br />
I always knew Clayton & her had a plan of when she would come, but I sure didnt think it would be this fast! For some reason, the 18th was the day she wanted to be born and she wasn't gonna miss it!<br />
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We didn't sleep more than a 1/2 hour saturday early am, I couldn't, I had just had my "rainbow baby girl" and everything was perfect with her, she was safe & sound, My body & mind could finally release and realize, we've gotten it! We stayed all saturday and were scheduled to go home sunday, GOING HOME!! Those were words I had dreamed about while in the NICU with Clayton, and they were true this time. Sunday morning we were headed out & going HOME!! Walking down the hallway, the same exact hallway we walked after the loss of Clayton, with Clayton we left with broken hearts and empty arms, just less than one year later, we were walking down the same hallway, with our hearts mending and arms full, of hope! It was the first time I was able to digest the life we were living. We were taking our sweet girl home & that was possible because of the loss of Clayton. BITTERSWEET.<br />
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As I look at Kendall and thank God & Clayton for her, I realize this journey we have been on. It's been the most incredibly difficult thing of my life, but I wouldn't change it. Sure I wish I could have made Clayton not sick, but that wasn't in God's plan for him. We know without Clayton & the gifts he's given us, we wouldn't have miss Kendall safe in our arms. For that, I will forever be grateful & know how blessed we are. <br />
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what a last couple of weeks this has been. My pregnancy has gone great & the last few weeks, progress has been made. Last week (38 week) I was dilated to 5, 75% effaced & baby girl is -1 station. So you'd think she would have decided to enter the world by now!!<br />
With the pending birth of little miss henning (any day now) I am struggling. I am so anxious to meet her, I just want her here, safe & sound.I know you hear me say that all the time, but when you've been where we have been, you realize how important that is. Everyday I feel her move is amazing, but in the back of my head i fear something still might go wrong. I know that she does not carry the same disease Clayton did, but it's hard to block out the "what if's" I've been there before, I've thought i was going to have a healthy baby, but the rug was pulled out from under us. So I just want her here. <br />
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I'm also dealing with the fast approaching birth date of Clayton. Everything is just so uncerten and being the "planner" that i am, I'm not handling it well!<br />
I feel like i'm wearing a mask. Everyday it's a different person, one who is still so devastated with the loss of Clayton & the other who is ecstatic to meet miss henning. I feel like i can't do both. It's just 2 totally seperate emotions, and they both take so much out of me. I hope I can find balance. Marcus & I have been doing lots of talking & healing lately. He said something I never really thought about, and now choose to go by. " the past made us who we are, that will never change, but all we have is the future to live for, so we better make the future worth it, cause we can't go back and change the past." He was talking about being torn about grieving for Clatyon & celebrating miss Henning. Clayton will forever be our first born son, but we need to LIVE for miss henning.<br />
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So in 10 days - little miss henning is due to enter the world. I know that her brother will be right there with us. I am thankful for all the gifts he has given us, but most of all, I am thankful for him, thankful God choose us as his parents. Like we said while back in the NICU less than a year ago, some say why us? we say WHY NOT US?<br />
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Love you Clayton Michael Henning- XOXOEMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-17069922159135357832012-05-07T17:16:00.000-05:002012-05-07T17:16:22.234-05:00you never, EVER get over your childAs the weeks pass by & the days until Clayton's 1st birthday approach. My anxiety increases! I am trying my best to focus on today & the moment, but it's hard. I want so badly to be done being pregnant, not because im uncomfortable (ok part of it is!) but mainly because I want "little miss henning" here! Safe & sound! And the closer it gets the more i want her here. My main reason is I want Clayton & her to have their own birthdays & I want to know that we will get the healthy baby we've been praying for. It's hard to push the thoughts away when we've been there before. I pray every night for her health & safety, but until she is here, I can't be so sure. So I will continue to try to focus on today and happiness it's brought.<br />
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I have had a lot of mixed emotions lately. Between Clayton's pending 1st birthday, the 37 week pregnacy mark- when Clayton was born,(today I'm 37 weeks with miss henning) & the birth of our "Rainbow baby girl". It all is very bittersweet and unexplainable. I have a lot on my plate right now and Im trying really hard to hold it all together. It's hard. I feel like there are a lot of people who need an explanation or an answer & Im afraid I can't do that. There are so many un-knowns in our life right now, I'm just going to take it day by day and keep on keeping on!<br />
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I've been thinking a lot about the past year and how i could put it into words. Well I dont have to, A good friend sent me a poem she found & that sums it all up. It's perfect, it says everything I've ever once thought or said. Without me explaining anything to anyone, it's simply----- HOW I FEEL.<br />
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<i>When you lose a baby...<br /> You don’t know what to expect.<br />
People surround you. For a couple of weeks. Making sure you are not
going to kill yourself, refuse to get out of bed, or start rocking a
baby doll like the crazy lady they heard about from a friend.<br /> You
get lots of sympathy cards, clearly written and designed to be sent to
console a daughter losing her father. Not the other way around.<br /> You get free baby formula in the mail. For months and months and months.<br /> And free baby magazines. And free baby coupons.<br />
You secretly envy every pregnant woman. But not without a tinge of
guilt, because you know all too well that she might be one in four-
expecting her rainbow child.<br /> It seems like the whole world is expecting a baby.<br /> You have baby stuff around your home. Because you never imagined you wouldn’t need it.<br /> You feel jarred. In the grocery store. At a birthday party. At the dinner table. At Christmas. Driving.<br /> The baby you never knew, but lost changes every part of your life. Every. single. part.<br /> Forever.<br /> You see baby clothes and it brings tears to your eyes.<br /> You get sick and tired of crying. You never knew it was possible to cry this much.<br /> You find yourself angry at God. Angry at yourself. Just angry.<br />
You sware you can feel them kick but they’re gone. They call them
phantom kicks. I call them painful, all kinds of painful. But sweet too.<br />
You know, or you have a strong feeling of knowing what your child would
have looked like, and been like. You see a child in the store, or on
the street. Their hair color, dimples, smile, their personality and
suddenly you are reminded of your child. You miss your child even more,
if that’s even possible.<br /> Your Babies R’ Us Registry is still active.
There is no delete button on their site. The babies r’ us people don’t
make a dime on people like us. Why bother right? You have to call them,
plead with them to remove your freaking’ registry, because there will be
no baby shower. There is an awkward silence. There is sadness. There
will be no baby.<br /> You get hospital bills about 3-4 months after you
buried your child. You have to pay for the baby you delivered but didn’t
bring home.<br /> You find that moment of happiness in life for the first time, but the guilt swallows it up almost immediately.<br />
You remember the size of the casket. The size of the plot. The face of
the funeral director. The expression of those that attended the funeral.
The feeling of raw pain, like your chest has literally been ripped
open.<br /> Somehow you convince yourself that you deserve happiness.
Because you really do. But in the happiest, purest moment, there is
still that hole that only they were meant to fill.<br /> People compare
your pain to their own pain. The loss of their grandmother, husband,
their failed marriage, rebellious teenagers. Somehow this comparing
leaves you stranded. If they can compare their pain of a situation to
the loss of your BABY, they will likely never get it. Babies are not
supposed to die. End of story.<br /> You lost a dream. And it almost feels
like you imagined their entire existence up. Their name becomes a
distant memory on the lips of others.<br /> There is awkwardness when you
talk about your child in a crowd. No one knows whether to cry, walk away
or pretend you never brought him or her up.<br /> You lose friends. You find new ones.<br /> You can’t believe that women have actually survived this and you never knew about it. Not really, anyway.<br /> You would do anything for another minute with your child.<br /> You cry when others bring up your child, not so much because it hurts but more so because it such a precious and rare gift.<br /> You long for the rewind button, even after many many instances of acceptance.<br /> You want to know what went wrong, and why…<br /> You find a new appreciation for moments in life that make you laugh… you laugh harder and love stronger.<br /> You know that you can die bitter, or die thankful. There is no in between.<br />
You never ever, EVER get over your child. The one you hoped for, prayed
for, carried and loved for the weeks and months they were with you.<br /> You learn to live with the pain.<br /> You are better for having known them at all.</i><br />
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So in closing thoughts, today I am 37 weeks. The same point in my pregnancy with Clayton that he was born. It's somewhat weird & so insecure. I don't know at all what to expect with "little miss henning" will she come soon, or will I go over? It's the unknown that's the hardest. But I have to keep remembering. God & Clayton have a plan!<i> </i>EMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-27156770458134260142012-04-24T12:25:00.000-05:002012-04-24T12:25:41.489-05:00trying to "just let it be"We are coming up on what would have been Clayton's 11 month birthday.I can't help but to think what I would have been doing, I'd be planning and prepping for his 1st birthday! It makes me sad, yet makes me smile at the same time. I've survived almost a year without him, when at the beginning I didn't think I'd survive the day. I actually have been thinking a lot about his birthday celebration, that I want to have this year, but I'm finding it hard, because as much as I wish I could, I can't plan how things are going to go with the birth of his little sister. I have no idea when she is going to make her appearance & with her due date & Clayton's birthday only 1 day apart. It's hard to make a plan. I know in my heart, Clayton will choose the perfect time for her birthday, but it's hard to let go & just "let it be". So until then I'm going to focus on today & the gift we've been given & when the time comes, Celebrate both kids, as we intend to do. Clayton's 1st birthday celebration may be after his real birthday (this year) but we DO plan to celebrate, like we will every year. We've chosen to focus on the positive. Some people are sad and focus on the day they lost their child. I am not going to choose that road. I am going to focus on the day he was born, the day my life changed forever. <br />
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I was able to share our story & Clayton's story this last weekend & it felt so good. I sometimes forget where we have been & how far we have come. I know we still have a long way to go & life is never definite, however it made me proud to share our story & talk about Clayton. I realize it's not always easy for others to hear about the devastation we survived, but I hope it makes them appreciate life a bit more & maybe hug their kids a little tighter. <br />
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Life for us has been pretty darn busy lately. For some reason I think we like it that way! :) after finishing up a remodel of the entry way/dining room/kitchen, we are officially 100% done with it, with a few weeks to spare. But with all this "stuff" to do, I forget about what is around the corner & it helps pass the time. Allowing me to focus my energy on things other than being stressed. I have felt so much better with my grief & the up and coming birth of our daughter. I am still very anxious to meet her & sure that it will be way more emotional than i am prepared for. I pray things go smoothly and Clayton helps us through it.<br />
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<br />EMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-91963470154711339022012-04-11T07:52:00.000-05:002012-04-11T07:52:06.381-05:00Clayton will chooseClayton would be a little over 10 months old, I'm a little bit in shock over how fast the last year has gone. Lately I have been thinking a lot about him & the wonderful 26 days we had with him. As the due date of his little sister gets closer and closer, I think about how things will go this time. It's hard to think about sometimes, the nightmare we survived. I pray things go smoothly this time, I have faith they will & I know that Clayton will be there by our side.<br />
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Over the last 10 months I really haven't thought a lot about specific moments we had, but lately i have. I am so very thankful for the times we did have, yet I'm sad for the moments we didnt get. I'm sad that he never came home and got to see the beautiful room & stuff we had for him, Im sad he never got to meet his puppy. I'm sad he didn't get to grow up. But I have to remember, that just wasnt in God's plan for him. I am happy that he is at peace & free from pain & suffering. I am happy he is in heaven, I am happy he has such wonderful people to take care of him & Im happy he is my son.<br />
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During the next month & 1/2, I'm going to let the emotions and feelings come as they may. I can't predict how things will go, although the "planner" that i am, it's hard to let go, but I know Clayton & God will make sure things are taken care of. Remembering back when Clayton was sick and I was trying to predict how he'd pass & when it would be, I remember someone saying, "Clayton will do what you want him to, he will go when he feels he should & he will have the people who love him, around him." He sure did, he passed peacefully in our arms & that was all I had dreamed of. So as I look upon the pending month, I know in my heart Clayton will be there to guide us and make everything ok. He will choose when his little sister is born & he will choose how it will go. I am thankful for that, It's just another gift Clayton has given us & I can't wait to celebrate that.<br />
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Love you little man- XOXOEMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-90657179666761130482012-03-25T14:25:00.000-05:002012-03-25T14:25:27.973-05:00I've been here beforeI find myself lately asking myself, Have I been here before? have I experienced this before? With the beautiful weather we're having, I am reminded of my life a year ago. I was doing as I'm doing now, per-pairing for the arrival of our child. But oh- is it so much different this time.<br />
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So many times lately have I had that "day sha voo" feeling. It's just a feeling that comes flooding back, that takes me right back to a year ago.<br />
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Like when I was In the shower in the morning, feeling like I'm getting ready to go to the NICU to see Clayton, or washing purple grapes to pack for my lunch, like I did while we were in the NICU. The spell & the feeling the downstairs has. I went down their to put something away, and it stopped me in my tracks. Just this time last year we were finishing up the final touched on the basement & I couldn't believe how much it felt & spelled the same. I was instantly back pregnant with Clayton, per-pairing for him. I can't believe how much I feel the same. The weather is beautiful & I'm loving it, but it brings back a lot of memories, good & bad.<br />
On top of that, It's just a hard time of year. The first full year without Clayton, the anniversary of his birthday right around my due date with Miss Henning, & the the pending birth of miss Henning.<br />
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So I feel it's to be expected, I'm a little frazzled. I am learning to take one day at a time, do what I can & want to & just enjoy life.EMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4408376858344323711.post-13814568137272762182012-03-12T20:50:00.000-05:002012-03-12T20:50:30.620-05:00can i lean on you?Today was a day, where I woke up thinking it was just an ordinary day. But I was caught off guard by UN-expected emotion. I'm just having a hard time. I know it's normal but I just am struggling with so many mixed emotions. Excited with my growing belly & feeling little miss Henning move around, which means it's getting closer to meeting her. Yet at the same time, still devastated with the loss of Clayton. It's just a slap in the face that I lost Clayton.<br />
I miss him so terribly much. I remember the feeling I had very soon after Clayton passed, that I couldn't wait to have a baby in my arms again. My arms just hurt, along with my heart. It was Marcus & I that decided, we would like to be parents again, sooner rather than later. But I was not at all aware of how hard it would be & for what that would be emotionally. I never ever thought it would be this hard. I know we can make it & we will be ok, because I have already survived the worst thing in the world. Yet I still pray for strength and understanding from others, daily. It's very hard. I want little miss Henning here so badly, but I also want Clayton back. I know that can't be. It's just hard to look to the future, when i'm still grieving the past. I'm just reminded of what I missed with him as I plan for her future. I know that Clayton will always be a part of our future, because I know in my heart, he's a reason for his sister.<br />
I am realizing I need to lean on my friends and family, they are the ones who've gotten me through so far & I hoping they can help get me over this bump. I just hope they understand. This isn't easy, it's not written in a book on how to handle. It's day to day. I pray for strength & understanding.<br />
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Happy 9 month birthday Clayton!!! Happy Birthday! I feel like this is such a milestone to celebrate! As time passes, Clayton's birth months have different feelings behind them. This month I reflect on the fact that he'd be 9 months, holy crap! I have survived life without him for 8 months! I also think about this months birthday in a different way these days, I am that much closer to meeting Clayton's little sister. It's such an odd feeling, counting up the months that i've been without Clayton, yet counting down until I get to meet little miss henning. Talk about mixed emotions! I think i've done pretty well at maintaining my sanity, yet some days I just pray for the month of May to hurry up and get here. One minute I am still so devastated with Clayton being gone & the next I'm folding little pink clothes. It's just so very hard to explain. I can not wait until the day she is here, safe & sound. So I can begin telling her all about her brother and his wonderful life. I know in my heart that the reason Marcus & I are going to be parents again, with her due date so close to Clayton's birthday, is because of Clayton. I know he wanted this life for us. So today, which would have been his 9 month birthday. I remember him & thank him for bringing me comfort in my days of weakness. For if it weren't for him, I wouldn't be the person i am today.<br />
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I still have many many moments where im not sure ill be ok, but through it all, I know Clayton is in a wonderful place, pain free, and for that, it's all worth it.<br />
So as my days go on, I hold that mommy, her husband & her sweet Benjamin in my heart and pray for their peace & comfort. And with a smile on my face I'm happy to know Clayton has another wonderful angel to play with.<br />
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Lately when people ask me how things are, with the pregnancy & just how we are. Im not sure what to say. Im not sure what they want to hear? & I find that whatever answer i give, i still dont think it's really how im feeling. That is something i'm just not sure i could put into words, & even if i did, im not sure anyone would get it. Unless, of course you've been in these shoes. So therefore I've decided to quit trying to explain it & to not get upset when i feel like someone just doesn't get it. It's not working for me. It's making me more stressed. I am traveling down a road, few will ever understand & therefore there is no road-map or directions. I am making it a point for the remainder of this pregnancy, to just go with it. Focus each day on happiness & making the best of today! I have focused this entire pregnancy on the may 28th due date, getting there with little miss henning here safe & sound, but all along forgetting the path im on & to be grateful for that. My anxiety is getting the best of my daily "in the moment" happiness. So my goal is to focus on today's happiness!<br />
Marcus & I still talk every night about life & our journey. He reminded me about focusing on enjoying what we have now. We were given this time to be just the 2 of us, not by choice, but by what God had in our plan, so I am going to focus on that. In 15 weeks or less our life will be changed, so im going to focus on the 2 of us & the time we have. <br />
I am thankful for today's happiness.<br />
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Miss you Clayton Michael- you will forever be our first born & our sweet boy! XOXOEMILYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04603758079245135247noreply@blogger.com0